Saturday, March 17, 2012

Not acceptable

Last night I actually got to go out with my girlfriends.  Had such a great time and it was so overdue.  I hate that I typed that it was "overdue".  What the hell happened?  The 3 of us were inseparable.  You'd never find just two of us....always three.  And now our main form of communication is via text.  It went from being together everyday, to talking everyday, to daily text, to a text here and there.  This is no longer acceptable.  For the past 19 years we've seen each other through graduations, weddings, births, deaths, struggles.  I love them dearly....and I miss them.  I miss the days when we all worked together, throwing forbidden parties, skipping school and sleeping in the park, driving around aimlessly.  So much fun. 

Kellie:  My focus driven, brilliant, beauty queen of a best friend.  I found her in drivers ed.  I seriously have no memory of how our friendship began.  It just was.  I can't imagine the trouble that I would have gotten in if she weren't there as the voice of reason.  We were such good friends that when her older sister got married she asked me to be in her wedding.  I had to walk with this hot guy named Nick.  I thought he was so cute.  After the wedding I spent the night at Kel's house.  We stayed up late eating spaghetti-o's and reviewing the day.  I told her I liked that Nick guy and the sensible friend spoke up and said "Nichole, how can you like him?  You don't even really know him".  She was right.  Three years later she drug me against my will to her sisters house because they were hell bent on fixing me up with that Nick guy.  Today my best friends sister is also my sister-in-law and we share 3 charming nephews.  She's officially banded to me for life.

Kimberly:  Hilarious, entertaining, dare devil of a best friend.  (I shake my head and smile).  This girl is ONE OF A KIND.  How I met Kim could possibly be one of my favorite stories ever.  Summer school 1994, Consumer Ec.  I rounded the corner into the classroom.  All the available chairs were sitting up on the table.  I searched the room for a familiar face.  I found Kevin Walker in the corner but he was alreay surrounded by people.  Still searching....nothing.  Down the center isle to the right, last row sat that snotty girl that had given me a dirty look earlier in the school year.  She was a year older than me.  I knew she was the girl that had given me a dirty look because she had broken her ankle and we'd passed each other in the hall...alone.  What the hell .... there was no other halfway normal looking person in the room so I had no choice but to bite the bullet and approach her.  I said " Is anyone sitting here?"  A reply in her snotty, snotty voice (which we still laugh about) "Um I guess not".  I don't know what happended in the next 2 hours but she drove me home that day.  So glad I took my chances sitting next to that snob on that hot June day.  I can't imagine my life without her. 

And now it's come down to the three of us being in the same room together only a handful of times each year.  No longer acceptable.  We get each other, we speak volumes without saying a single word, we laugh at the same time, we can sit silence next to each other and it not be uncomfortable, we can go weeks without having a conversation and it being ok, or talking every single day and always having things to tell each other. Our bond together is unbreakable....they are  my BFF's.  I'll love you both forever.